You're not supposed to look back, you're supposed to keep going.

Society tells us all the time that we have to be tough and that we shouldn't let others know that we are hurting.  This in itself causes even more pain though.  Why is it that we feel like we have to keep our heaviest burdens to ourselves?  We convince ourselves that no one wants to hear what we are going through, or that there is no reason to get others involved in our personal struggles. But this is so dangerous. I think it is important to express how you are feeling in someway; whether you let it all out through prayer, art, exercise, writing, or talking, you have to find a positive way to free yourself from these burdens and weights you carry around.  Holding onto something you cannot change will tear you apart and create even more problems.  Dwelling on the past gets us nowhere.  We need to stop hiding so much. I think we are most worried about what other's will think, but I think we need to realize that everyone faces hard times, and that we are never alone, even when we feel like we are.

But we still keep it all inside because that feels like the safest place to hide.  But in all actuality I think that is the most dangerous place we can keep everything. Sure it might feel like it's the safest place, trust me I do it all the time.  But it is so important to let your fears and insecurities out because holding them in will only create more stress and anxiety, which is so bad for you.
You convince yourself that it is just better to hold it in because no one understands or it's better off this way, but trust me it's not.  Whatever it is you are worried about will only get worse if you don't express yourself in someway.  Communication is key.  There are so many ways in which you can communicate too.  If you don't feel comfortable talking to your friends or family about whatever it is you are going through that is completely normal, but it doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to anyone! Don't keep all of your burdens, let them go, give them up.  Find something you are comfortable with -- whether it is talking to a professional, your friends, your parents, God -- communicate, no it's not easy, I never said it would be, but it's necessary.

Namaste

Hate is Easy, Love Takes Courage

Recently, I have started to use tumblr a lot (Check Out My Page Here) and one thing I notice constantly is how much hate people receive and how much sadness people have in their lives.  This breaks my heart.  I just don't understand how someone can say something so hurtful to someone they have never met.  Different people I follow will constantly receive messages with hurtful words telling them they are not good enough.  Words can be so hurtful.  People telling others that they don't deserve to live, or that no one loves them THIS IS NOT OKAY! and it really boggles my mind that people think they can do this.

There are so many people in this world today that suffer from depression or anxiety, and I think that one of the things that brings this on is our constant desire to please everyone else.  Society is constantly telling us that we are not good enough-- we are too short, too tall, too skinny, too fat, too smart, too dumb.  We learn to hate ourselves, which makes it extremely easy for others to pick on us. Because we have learned to hate ourselves it makes it extremely easy to take what these people say seriously. I mean, these people have no idea what might be going on in that other person's mind.  Maybe they were already thinking about hurting themselves, or worse, and you saying something hurtful reassures them that they are right and that maybe they aren't good enough.  If someone tells you that you're not good enough, and you already have that idea in your head you are going to believe them. You know you shouldn't, but you're vulnerable so it's easy.  I know it is, I struggle with the same thing everyday, I put ideas these ideas into my head, and then I hear or see something that "reassures me" of this. We cannot keep living like this.  This has to stop, people are literally dying because of all of the pressure that the world puts on us, and that we put on ourselves -- to be perfect.  I mean how would you feel knowing that someone cried their self to sleep or hurt them self because of something mean you said, even if you were "just joking?" You can't joke about things like this.  I don't understand what makes people think it is okay to joke about someone's worth in the world.  We are all here for a reason, if we weren't we wouldn't be here. 

So how do we stop this? No matter how badly we want to or how hard we try, we cannot control how other people treat us. But what we can do is control ourselves.

We have to learn to love ourselves, I know it sounds cliche, but it is so true.  There comes a point when we just have to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks, and we just have to live for ourselves.  Obviously this cannot just happen over night, and no it will not be easy, that I am sure of. I am not saying I have accomplished this, because trust me I am nowhere near that point yet, but I do think it is possible to get there.  We have to find what makes us happy, and we have to do it! So you like to read books to escape, and others call you names or make fun of you for doing this, or you love the rush and adrenaline you get from skydiving or rock climbing and others are telling you it's too dangerous, or you shouldn't do it-- so what don't let that bring you down! Just think to yourself that you don't need to live to please those people! Now, I am not saying to go out and rebel against these people and do something dangerous or stupid in spite of them; I am saying find what makes you happy and pursue it.  And ALWAYS remember that you are good enough!

Namaste 

No Matter What People Tell You, Words and Ideas Can Change the World.

The world can put so much pressure on us it can seem unbearable at times. We feel like we are not good enough. We feel like we cannot make a difference. We feel completely useless.  Some days are worse than others, but we have to remember that there is hope, things do get better, even when it seems like they won't.  We have to remember that we do have the power to change things, and we are good enough.  At the end of the day we have to please ourselves, that is the only person we need to be good enough for.  We try so hard to please others all the time that we constantly put our needs last and we forget to take the time to be happy. It's so easy to get caught up in the rush the world, and it is so easy to overwhelm ourselves at times. But we have to stop doing this. What is living worth if we are never pleasing ourselves? There is no reason to lead an unhappy life. We must please ourselves, and we must start now.  We can't sit and be unhappy wishing to be happy, we must go out and act upon it. Find what makes you happy and do, whether people like it or not. You have to live for yourself. That is the most important thing.
I know that I have tried so hard all of my life to live for others and all that it brings is unhappiness. But when I take the time to do what I love is when I am the most happy. Things do not always work out how we want them to, but that is life, and there is nothing we can do to change that. But when this happens we need to not sulk, we need to get out and do what makes us happy. Eventually things will work out and we will be happy, even if that seems impossible right now. Things will get better. 

Be Happy For This Moment, For This Moment Is Your Life.

Learn to be happy.
Not just on the outside but everywhere, all the time: YOU DESERVE IT.  We all deserve to be happy. What is the point to living everyday if we cannot be happy?
But what does it take to truly be happy?
I think, this is a question that takes a lifetime to anser. We must go out and discover what we love to do, who we love to be with, and that is when we will become happier people. I think another key to this is finding peace. Not just finding peace within ourselves but finding peace in everything: an ocean wave, a crying baby, a sunset, or a barking dog. We need peace and love to be happy.  More so,  we need them to live. After all, what is a life that does not contain peace, love and happiness.


Namaste 

Imagine All The People Living For Today, It Isn't Hard To Do.

 

This Is Your Life, Be Who You Want To Be

Creativity is something I feel that can get lost so easily.  A lot of times we are given the impression that creativity is not okay when you are "grown up" or when you are "professional," but you know I think creativity is what keeps me going everyday.  It is our minds and the power that they have that allow us to truly express ourselves.  Not everyone communicates in the same way, and creativity allows us to express ourselves in different ways. One person may communicate through talking where another may use writing, or painting, or music; each person is different -- creativity allows us to keep and express what makes us us.  It is so important to stay creative no matter how old you get. Whether you are 80 or 8, 40 or 14, you can still be you and express you creativity however YOU like, because all in all you are the only person that it matters to, if someone else doesn't like the creative way you present something, so what, that is not your problem.  I think fear is something that holds us back from being creative, all of the what ifs and fear of what everyone else will think. Well, I will tell you what I think, I think that we should all start to do things because we want to, stop worrying about what others think all the time.  If you like to paint, express yourself in your work. If you like to write, show others how brilliant you are with your words. But NEVER put your creativity on hold because your scared of what others will say. Do what you love and express yourself how you like to, and ALWAYS be creative.  Never sacrifice your creativity, or better yet, your individuality, out of fear.

Be who you want to be, not who others want you to be. Show others who you are through your creativity and your beautiful mind. 

Namaste

Sometimes You Just Have To Take Life Slowly...

How true is this? I think it is absolutely wonderful and very accurate.  A lot of times we have the tendency to do things out of order. We put ourselves first a lot of times, or we act to quickly. We judge before we really know.  

How beautiful would life be if we could really do as this quote states?  I think if we were able to do this we would all have much less stress, anxiety, and regrets.  I know for myself I tend to get worked up over past situations because I maybe did not think enough or listen at the right times, this then causes me to get stressed or anxious about the future.  I think if I, and everyone, took the time to slow down and try these simple steps that we could probably eliminate a lot of worry from our minds, and live a much more peaceful life, which essentially is what we are to do, right?  Peacefulness is something I think we all strive for, whether we admit it or not. 

There is a quote that says, "When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others." I think this is so true, as well.  I mean, think about it, if we are able to be completely peaceful with ourselves, then we have no reason to not have a peaceful attitude towards everything else in life, allowing us to be peaceful in fundamentally every aspect in life.  How beautiful would that be?  I know for myself I strive to someday find this peace to live a truly peaceful life, and I hope I am not alone.  

So, let us cheers to peace and strive to find this within ourselves and within everyone else. 

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Namaste