You're not supposed to look back, you're supposed to keep going.

Society tells us all the time that we have to be tough and that we shouldn't let others know that we are hurting.  This in itself causes even more pain though.  Why is it that we feel like we have to keep our heaviest burdens to ourselves?  We convince ourselves that no one wants to hear what we are going through, or that there is no reason to get others involved in our personal struggles. But this is so dangerous. I think it is important to express how you are feeling in someway; whether you let it all out through prayer, art, exercise, writing, or talking, you have to find a positive way to free yourself from these burdens and weights you carry around.  Holding onto something you cannot change will tear you apart and create even more problems.  Dwelling on the past gets us nowhere.  We need to stop hiding so much. I think we are most worried about what other's will think, but I think we need to realize that everyone faces hard times, and that we are never alone, even when we feel like we are.

But we still keep it all inside because that feels like the safest place to hide.  But in all actuality I think that is the most dangerous place we can keep everything. Sure it might feel like it's the safest place, trust me I do it all the time.  But it is so important to let your fears and insecurities out because holding them in will only create more stress and anxiety, which is so bad for you.
You convince yourself that it is just better to hold it in because no one understands or it's better off this way, but trust me it's not.  Whatever it is you are worried about will only get worse if you don't express yourself in someway.  Communication is key.  There are so many ways in which you can communicate too.  If you don't feel comfortable talking to your friends or family about whatever it is you are going through that is completely normal, but it doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to anyone! Don't keep all of your burdens, let them go, give them up.  Find something you are comfortable with -- whether it is talking to a professional, your friends, your parents, God -- communicate, no it's not easy, I never said it would be, but it's necessary.

Namaste

Hate is Easy, Love Takes Courage

Recently, I have started to use tumblr a lot (Check Out My Page Here) and one thing I notice constantly is how much hate people receive and how much sadness people have in their lives.  This breaks my heart.  I just don't understand how someone can say something so hurtful to someone they have never met.  Different people I follow will constantly receive messages with hurtful words telling them they are not good enough.  Words can be so hurtful.  People telling others that they don't deserve to live, or that no one loves them THIS IS NOT OKAY! and it really boggles my mind that people think they can do this.

There are so many people in this world today that suffer from depression or anxiety, and I think that one of the things that brings this on is our constant desire to please everyone else.  Society is constantly telling us that we are not good enough-- we are too short, too tall, too skinny, too fat, too smart, too dumb.  We learn to hate ourselves, which makes it extremely easy for others to pick on us. Because we have learned to hate ourselves it makes it extremely easy to take what these people say seriously. I mean, these people have no idea what might be going on in that other person's mind.  Maybe they were already thinking about hurting themselves, or worse, and you saying something hurtful reassures them that they are right and that maybe they aren't good enough.  If someone tells you that you're not good enough, and you already have that idea in your head you are going to believe them. You know you shouldn't, but you're vulnerable so it's easy.  I know it is, I struggle with the same thing everyday, I put ideas these ideas into my head, and then I hear or see something that "reassures me" of this. We cannot keep living like this.  This has to stop, people are literally dying because of all of the pressure that the world puts on us, and that we put on ourselves -- to be perfect.  I mean how would you feel knowing that someone cried their self to sleep or hurt them self because of something mean you said, even if you were "just joking?" You can't joke about things like this.  I don't understand what makes people think it is okay to joke about someone's worth in the world.  We are all here for a reason, if we weren't we wouldn't be here. 

So how do we stop this? No matter how badly we want to or how hard we try, we cannot control how other people treat us. But what we can do is control ourselves.

We have to learn to love ourselves, I know it sounds cliche, but it is so true.  There comes a point when we just have to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks, and we just have to live for ourselves.  Obviously this cannot just happen over night, and no it will not be easy, that I am sure of. I am not saying I have accomplished this, because trust me I am nowhere near that point yet, but I do think it is possible to get there.  We have to find what makes us happy, and we have to do it! So you like to read books to escape, and others call you names or make fun of you for doing this, or you love the rush and adrenaline you get from skydiving or rock climbing and others are telling you it's too dangerous, or you shouldn't do it-- so what don't let that bring you down! Just think to yourself that you don't need to live to please those people! Now, I am not saying to go out and rebel against these people and do something dangerous or stupid in spite of them; I am saying find what makes you happy and pursue it.  And ALWAYS remember that you are good enough!

Namaste