Recently, I have started to use tumblr a lot (Check Out My Page Here) and one thing I notice constantly is how much hate people receive and how much sadness people have in their lives. This breaks my heart. I just don't understand how someone can say something so hurtful to someone they have never met. Different people I follow will constantly receive messages with hurtful words telling them they are not good enough. Words can be so hurtful. People telling others that they don't deserve to live, or that no one loves them THIS IS NOT OKAY! and it really boggles my mind that people think they can do this.
There are so many people in this world today that suffer from depression or anxiety, and I think that one of the things that brings this on is our constant desire to please everyone else. Society is constantly telling us that we are not good enough-- we are too short, too tall, too skinny, too fat, too smart, too dumb. We learn to hate ourselves, which makes it extremely easy for others to pick on us. Because we have learned to hate ourselves it makes it extremely easy to take what these people say seriously. I mean, these people have no idea what might be going on in that other person's mind. Maybe they were already thinking about hurting themselves, or worse, and you saying something hurtful reassures them that they are right and that maybe they aren't good enough. If someone tells you that you're not good enough, and you already have that idea in your head you are going to believe them. You know you shouldn't, but you're vulnerable so it's easy. I know it is, I struggle with the same thing everyday, I put ideas these ideas into my head, and then I hear or see something that "reassures me" of this. We cannot keep living like this. This has to stop, people are literally dying because of all of the pressure that the world puts on us, and that we put on ourselves -- to be perfect. I mean how would you feel knowing that someone cried their self to sleep or hurt them self because of something mean you said, even if you were "just joking?" You can't joke about things like this. I don't understand what makes people think it is okay to joke about someone's worth in the world. We are all here for a reason, if we weren't we wouldn't be here.
So how do we stop this? No matter how badly we want to or how hard we try, we cannot control how other people treat us. But what we can do is control ourselves.
We have to learn to love ourselves, I know it sounds cliche, but it is so true. There comes a point when we just have to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks, and we just have to live for ourselves. Obviously this cannot just happen over night, and no it will not be easy, that I am sure of. I am not saying I have accomplished this, because trust me I am nowhere near that point yet, but I do think it is possible to get there. We have to find what makes us happy, and we have to do it! So you like to read books to escape, and others call you names or make fun of you for doing this, or you love the rush and adrenaline you get from skydiving or rock climbing and others are telling you it's too dangerous, or you shouldn't do it-- so what don't let that bring you down! Just think to yourself that you don't need to live to please those people! Now, I am not saying to go out and rebel against these people and do something dangerous or stupid in spite of them; I am saying find what makes you happy and pursue it. And ALWAYS remember that you are good enough!
Namaste
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